Being Coachable
Sometimes we are not ready, we drag our feet, feeling doubt and anxiety at the same time. We feel we will not meet our expectations and feel unworthy of our endeavors for improvement. BULL***T! Being coachable is to listen to our heart, and stop the pity party and take the chance to be who we are meant to be.
Trust me, I have spent years feeling that I was not good enough for this or that. I made every excuse in the book and then some. It wasn't until I took on the responsibility of following my DREAM and helping people face their demons, to maintain dignity to pursue their dreams.
Staring in the mirror day after day, realizing that I have the ability to help others, pushed me into creating this blog. Letting people know I have been there. I have adopted skills that helped me move on and I want to share that with the world; knowing that change is possible.
Once I turned 18, I was able to leave my horrid place of terror or so I I thought. I met a man, who I felt would stand by my side and help me. At first he was kind and charming, until we were married. After a couple of weeks, he felt the honeymoon was over so he started sleeping with other women. We argued and I found out on the day of our wedding, that he slept with my bridesmaid before we took our vows. Yes, I was pi***d off feeling betrayed.
That was the easy part, he physically made it clear that I was his property, and he would continue doing what he wanted, and if I didn't like it he would beat me and threaten me. At the time I was pregnant with our first child. I kept thinking this was temporary, and that he would change his behaviors.
Well we eventually had 2 more children, during that time he felt that as long as he sold me to other men to sleep with me, he could continue sleeping with whoever he wanted.
After so many fights, our children were taken away. I knew he didn't really care, and I struggled with little to no support and was able to get my 2 youngest back. It wasn't until he pulled a gun on my kids and I stepped in to stop him, that I realized it was completely over between us. So I finally left him for good.
I can't say I learned my lesson, I kept getting mixed up with the wrong men. Deep down I knew I wanted more out of my life. :(
Recently, I came to terms with my past and realized I cannot keep reliving the past mistakes. I decided to help people out that have been where I was, and show them that they are worthy of sooo much more.
The reason I brought up being coachable, is that it took me awhile to realize that I can't do everything by myself. My husband, my true friends, and my therapist have shown me what I am capable of doing. I have been taking courses online to help me, so that I can continue helping those that need it.
So anyone who truly cares can be a coach, you can be certified or just start helping people be the best that they can be. Whatever your dreams or goals are; realize that "you are not alone."
Prayers,
Mandie
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