Keep Your FRIENDS Closer
Years ago, I found out that you need to keep your friends closer. Let me explain my philosophy about keeping friends close and enemies closer. In business, I understand this statement. In real life, it doesn't work out quite that way.
I know quite a few people who have gone through divorce, because they never understood their partner; or never thought in a million years that someone would leave them.
When people marry someone, it is because they think they know them, and nothing would get in the way of "their" happiness.
WRONG!
If you have ever been divorced you may understand that your best friend and "soulmate", aren't all their cracked up to be, I know I thought my knight in shining armor rescued me from abuse, yet did the exact same things as my oppressors did.
My biggest problem was not knowing what "LOVE" really meant. I was told the reason for being abused was a form of love. I associated sex as love, as long as he wanted me sexually, I thought it meant they loved me.
Where he "rescued" me from my abusers, I felt it was true love. Yeah, I wasn't the smartest teen and had poor role models.
It wasn't until I was in my mid thirties, that I took time out for myself. It was at that point, I realized I needed to know what Mandie wanted, before I could get involved in a serious relationship. In my twenties, I was in several relationships, looking for love, and finding the same ol' heap of trash.
Even my girlfriends, who I went to school with or knew since I was younger, would seduce my men, and never thought twice about it.
The point I am trying to convey, is that we need to keep our friends closer...not to keep an eye on them, but to know them on a deeper level, and what they may be capable of doing.
I feel that "our" world has drastically gone downhill, where divorce is now very common, as well as not balancing our moral compass. We seem induced by what we read or see in the news about celebrities and famous people going through divorces.
It feels like we lost part of our soul, that we don't have the same values our grandparent had. I am certain there may have been things swept under the carpet, but not for the whole world and social media to know about.
If I can get a message out to you, it is to establish your moral code of conduct, and not sway.
If you keep your friends closer, you will know whom to trust under certain circumstances. As far as enemies understand them, but don't fall prey to their self serving antics.
Bottom line is first know yourself, before engaging in "friendships".
Prayers,
Mandie
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